The Safety Talk: How Not to Burn Your House Down

Look, we're all here because we love a good flame. The ambiance, the scent, the vibe... we get it. But here's the deal: fire is still fire.

We want your experience to be all warmth and intimacy with no "where's the fire extinguisher". So we're going to give a brief overview of considerations we have whenever we use any kind of candle, broken down by product type.

Body Play (Wax Play) Candles

This is the big one, so don't skim. This is for our Body Play candles—the ones made for dripping on people.

Rule #1: Use the Right Candle. We cannot say this loudly enough. DO NOT use a regular candle from a random store for wax play. Not a scented jar, not a taper, and definitely not a birthday candle. Ours are made with low-temp waxes for a reason. Using the wrong wax (like pure beeswax or most paraffin) is a one-way ticket to an actual, serious burn. Don't do it. 

The rest of these rules apply to any candle made to apply on the skin!
 

Talk About It. This isn't a surprise party. Check in with your partner. Talk about what you're doing, where you're dripping, and what feels good (or doesn't).

Wick Size is Everything. Before you light, trim that wick to 1/4 inch. A long, sooty, mushroom-topped wick creates a much hotter flame, which means dangerously hot wax. Keep it short.

Calibrate! (Test it on YOU first). After you've got a little drip going, test the temperature. Drip a bit from about 2 feet above your own forearm. Make sure you like the way it feels and that is isn't too hot. Repeat on your partner.

Start High. Drip from at least 1-2 feet above the skin. The wax cools as it falls, making the sensation gentler. Want more heat? Drip from a little closer. Want less? Run it down the side of the candle to cool.

Know Your No-Go Zones. Stick to the good spots—backs, shoulders, booty, and legs are fantastic. AVOID the face, hair, genitals, broken skin, and any other super-sensitive areas.

Why No Scent? You'll notice our Body Play candles are unscented. That's on purpose. Fragrance oils can create "hot pockets" in the wax that burn much hotter than the rest. We prefer avoid that risk entirely. Safety first.

Body Oil Massage Candles

These are a totally different (and lovely) experience. These warm your massage oil and should not be dripped like hot wax. Since it burns at a lower temperature, these candles can support fragrance oils that are specifically formulated to be skin safe.

Check for Allergens. Just like any skincare, know what's in it. Be sure you or your partner aren't allergic to any of the butters, fragrances, or oils before you apply.

Light. Melt. Wait. Let a 1/4 in pool of warm, luscious oil form, don't melt down the entire candle (you really don't want 3- 7 oz of oil at a go). Alternatively, if you have a body safe tart each one is meant to be a single serving.

EXTINGUISH the flame or turn off your warmer as soon as the wax melts. Really. Don't pour hot oil from a container with an open flame and don't overheat your tarts. 

Allow the wax to cool for at least 30 seconds, swirl it carefully and test. Dip a fingertip carefully to check the temperature. It should be just beautifully warm, not hot.

Pour on just enough and enjoy the massage.

Beeswax Ritual & Altar Candles,  Scented Candles 

This is for our standard candles—the tapers, the scented jars and tarts. They  look pretty and smell amazing. Their job is not to touch your skin.

Watch the add-ins. If you ever use a candle with herbs and stones, be careful. Keep a close eye on them. If anything falls into the wax pool (we take cautions with our placement, but it's good to be careful), extinguish the candle carefully and use a fork or spoon etc. to move it out of the pool and away from where the flames would be. Heat can make stones pop and herbs burn. (Reddit posts will confirm this, if you're curious).

Aside from that, they're the same as any other candles. Burn them on a stable surface. Don't burn them near anything that can catch fire. Watch for drafts that can make them burn faster than normal. Trim your wicks. Extinguish flames in glass candles before they burn out all the way to avoid glass cracks because even heat resistant glass can do that when exposed to open flame.